First of all, believe it or not, this whole situation is your own mind playing tricks with you. As someone else also pointed out, you have subconsciously placed this girl on a pedestal. Your heart and mind are not willing to accept that she might be a completely different person compared to the image you have of her.
A lot of us, whether we care to admit it or not, have fallen into this moh-maya jaal of our creation at some point in our lives either with girls or other possessions (cars / gadgets etc.). Once we "get" what our heart desires, the longing fades away gradually.
I believe this is the same girl whose face our "friend" would forget and had to visit the bar a few times every week. You need to convince yourself that this girl may be nice to you, but in the end she is just another bar girl (albeit a nice human being) who plays with customers imagination to get them to spend money on her.
The only solution to this issue, believe it or not, is to sleep with her at least once (perhaps a few times). Moving to a different city will only make your life miserable. This was verified when you went to the USA for a month and couldn't get her out of your mind. Running away is not a viable solution. Sleep with her and a few other girls on back to back days. Eventually you will find another girl that is just a sweet/nice to you. hopefully that will help prove to you that there are a lot of bar girls that can provide the same experience without screwing with you mental peace and normal daily life (professional and person).
Summary -> please fuck her OR make love to her nicely... whatever... just do it !!!
P.S: I am never ever rude with any bar girls / working girls, even when they are obviously scamming me. I always deal with them with a smile on my face and humor in my words. I make it clear to them that I understand their games and am not falling for any of that shit. From your posts, it appears that you are probably the same. Stay true to your nature and deal with this situation head-on. There is absolutely no need to change your behavior. Will power can get you out of this situation. Trust yourself.
Hmm very nicely written and you have followed my previous post as well.
You are absolutely right she was THAT PARTICULAR GIRL which i have post in my earlier report.
The attraction/trap/illusion/love have increased on each day i have visited her.
I have created some sort of affection for her on my 1st meeting with her and this was easily caught by other bar girl.
The reason I attracted towards her that even she knows in last month that i will be never return to her for some obvious reason which i cannot share here she still waiting for me crying like child.( i know that,its not her word)
Every bar girl know that their root of business is Alcohol which force guys like us to spend on them and even ordinary girl look like heroine in affect of alcohol.
So who will stop his customer to stop drinking?
I think no girl will take this risk.
But she always stops me to drink and sometimes bar staffs get angry on her for this behaviour.
Lastly I have noticed one big thing in my life of mongering.
I give good amount to bar girls or staff
If say some girl deserve 5k i gave her 10k maybe i meet her second time or not.
In my entire life i have notice this very cheap thing that even i give 15k or 20k to a girl who deserves 4 to 5k and she will only get that amount if she would be with other customer but still she wants some more money from me.
They donโt get satisfied in whatever u spend on them.
But her case is different from other
She didnโt asked a penny from me even she spend her full bar time with me.
She didnโt count money which i give her while leaving her from 1st day.
She didnโt give excuses like other girls and demand money that i need money for this or that even she knows that i will give her the amount whatever she will demand.
This all thing have made a place of her in my heart and i have made up her image in my mind that she is some different from other bar girls
Anyway its a long story and i still believes that only way i can forget her is to go away from her.
Just planned everything
Will leave Mumbai tomorrow
Bye all
May I find some peace.
MP