Apology and Request

[Maki Maki]

I recently retired the name of “vngirlfan” and am using my present screen name solely to post this message. This and a duplicate post--in the spa section and in the Men's Lounge--will be my only posts under “David Key” or any other screen name. My partial real name is David Key**. I hope that those customers or hobbyists who read it will give careful thought to their own actions and compare them to what I have done by writing a review about a Vietnamese massage girl.

A Vietnamese girl, very hurt and angry, recently brought to my attention the damage that I have caused by having reviewed her in the spa section of this board. Her place of business includes a legal massage business where there is a policy against extra activities. I did a review that went into detail about how some of those activities developed in the session that I described. I don’t know how, but the review is, of course, on the internet, and it came to the attention of her boss and family, causing her much anguish. As you know, some of the information--including name, phone number, place of business, and a general summary of activities, is fully public. When this came to her attention, she or others arranged to read the private area (“The Rest of the Story”) as well. Without intending to do so, I had used a name that she is known by in the Vietnamese community, and she believes that many in that community now know what she did. Her own mother now knows and agonizes over this. Also, she and her shop believe that they are now targeted by law enforcement, and when these kinds of posts are made about massage girls, they and their managers get arrested and go to jail.

In contrast to the terrible damage to women and their families, friends, and places of work that a review can cause when sensual or sexual massages are not advertised and are not in compliance with the policy of the establishment, we on this board post and read for entertainment and information. You can pick a girl or a place and say, “everyone knows what they do and the previous posts (if any) about a girl justify subsequent posts”. But how do you really know? And should they be at risk that you make the right decision?

I have tried--maybe more than many--to avoid reviews of UTR or RMT places, and to use common sense and consideration for others in deciding whether to post. Even so, I now know that a review of mine has been very damaging to the girl involved, as well as to her shop, family and friends. There is no way to undo this. I even asked a board administrator repeatedly to remove the review (even though my review has already done its damage--maybe removal would have prevented additional damage), but the board refuses because it believes that its business will be threatened if every angry person can cause reviews and posting threads to be removed. I also asked to be allowed to edit my review, to no avail. So . . . please be VERY CAREFUL AND CONSIDERATE in posting any details about girls that try to do a proper service and, if things go farther, clearly want to keep that information private. You will not be able to fix this if bad things happen.

Hopefully, most of you have done a better job than me in deciding whether and what to post. I cannot continue on this board, knowing the damage that I have caused to others, and so I will never do any more reviews. I understand that, especially with providers and at AMPS where the girls rotate in from out of town, this board serves as an advertising and mutual information service, and each hobbyist and provider makes his or her own policies and choices regarding discretion and safety. But in the area of nails shops, massage shops, and similar places, there is just too much risk of causing damage for me to continue. My other, previous posts may also have hurt others--I hope not, but there is just too much risk in general that revealing dirty details about sessions and activities causes irreparable harm to people.

I apologize deeply to the girl that I have hurt, and to her shop, and to all the Vietnamese and other girls who try to provide good service and earn funds for themselves and their families.

Please do not ask me any questions, as I will not reply here or by PM.

 

[Pompal 09.]

David,

Good luck, your input will be missed. I hope you find that SO you seek, so that you may happily retire from hobbying.

LS

 

[Elle Z]

Thanks David. I applaud your sticking by your principles.

 

[The Coolest Guy]

I respect you decision and your integrity. There are several places that I will never review for similar reasons.

 

[Arlo]

plus the LE lurkers is one of the reasons why I don't do reviews of Spas or nail shops.