Confessions of a Hobbyist...On Marriage & Hobbying

[matt c]

Do all marriages go through that inevitable cycle where you start out making love 3 times a day, then twice, then once a week and, eventually, you have to focus just to finish? Mine did.

Does this sound familiar? Straight to missionary with only cursory foreplay followed by a race to climax before you lose interest or she dries up? Whatever sexual energy remains, you deplete on strippers, MPAs, escorts and masturbation. In my experience, limp-dicked marital sex invariably loses to the MPA adrenalin rush that’s only a quick drive and a couple of brown notes away.

It started with strippers, progressed to MPAs, I even sampled a few escorts now and then. As my hobbying skills developed, so did my mileage. It was only a matter of time before I started to get involved with these sex-workers personally. I fell in love with the first one and used the second one to get over the first one and continued until I was at the brink of ending my marriage. The irony is, the further I strayed, the more I began realize how good I had it with my wife.

Hooking up on a not-for-pay basis re-educated me in the art of sex and relationships. Suddenly, my partner’s interest in me wasn’t based on my wallet. I actually had to attend to their personalities, their pleasure and their bullshit. I also began to realize that in many ways, these women were not that different from my SO. Looking at an MPA’s face in the morning sun in the midst of the chaos of her messy apartment is a far cry from being pampered for 30 candlelit minutes at her spa. Suddenly I had the whole package, the good, the bad and I had to work very hard to keep both; a stark contrast with the spa where its all good and there’s no work to be done unless she’s doing it.

Take away the plastic surgery, the tanning, the zit cream, the hair extensions, the personal trainer, the spa visits, the dim lighting, the peeler wardrobe, the soft music, the constantly ringing cell phone, the lies and add, love, dependability, a future, a family, a career, great conversation, a wonderful history with someone who actually cares and you were starting to get a woman that was a lot like my SO.

 

[slicedbread1991]

Why was I risking everything with a great woman for sex with MPAs? It’s a long story, but the short of it is, I was looking for something I already had. God knows what would have happened if things hadn’t changed. Things changed; $1300/month in day care reduced my disposable income to zero. No money, no MPAs.

Guess what happened when I couldn’t hobby anymore? What was I supposed to do with all this sexual energy? I started to fuck my wife! She couldn’t believe all the shit I’d learned. I couldn’t believe how good it felt to make love to her again. I used to hate eating pussy, now (thanks to a certain MPA) I love it. I also now know that you only get out of sex what you put into it. I suddenly realized, I was giving the best part me to women who didn’t deserve or appreciate it, while I was depriving the one woman who did. By the way, when you’re fucking your wife regularly, the spillover effect on the rest of your life is amazing.

So the question now becomes, how long will the fairytale last? No, I’m not reformed. I’m a dog and always will be. I yearn for women like a Jonesing chain-smoker in a Toronto single’s bar. I remember how tight my last lover’s pussy felt, how she’d moan and whisper in my ear how lucky I was that she’d let me fuck her as her cell phone went off in the background. I’ve also learned to appreciate what I’ve got, a lesson I pray I won’t soon forget.

Until next time…

 

[Insane In The Dwayne]

Very well said.

Sadly and happily, my situation is the same.

I'm happy with what I have, but I still have the P U S S Y madness.

 

[Princess Lex]

Wow is all I can say. I have been on the edge of jumping in. All I've done is the occasional stripper visit with a bit of extra mileage.

I've been married three years, and it has been getting a bit boring... maybe I'll re-evaluate...

 

[dantexvergil]

LOL! This thread isn't good for business!

I've got a friend who's not married and been dating an MPA for over a year now. Personally, I think he's worse off [than what SC went through/is going through!] I'll write his story (in generic form) later...

kkarn/

 

[lrd00a]

Me too!

But, that is the human Condition. Sometimes, we do things because we sense a need that is unfulfilled. Once we experience some actions, we realise that we really have what we thought we neded and was missing from our lives. This is what I have learned from my experiences with MPAs and SPs and ex-girlfriends. My spouse and family are irreplaceable. However, I guess that I need some therapy once ina while. At least, my wife enjoys some of the skills I have learned away from home!