Dating an "MPA" Girl why not!! MPAsquared. lol

[workinmama]

Hey I have a thread to start, Why don't girls date clients more often? So what that we go to these places and pay. We pay for fun, and they should understand it and accept it as we should except there job as well. In porn land they do it? So what's the big deal.....It could be like a open relationship!! it seems to be the in thing now anyhow. look at "club wicked" swingers clubs, its legal now to have sex at these clubs and is open to kinky wild stuff. I think we need to open our eyes about sexuality and relationships as a whole and learn to share with boundries.... Yes, it would be a better place, you touch me, i touch you, you touch my girl, i touch yours...it's all good. lol

The girls need to become more liberal and open up more to these ideas. Us men are, most anyhow, and it is changing slowly. But you girls still need to catch up. lol....How can you be with one cock for the rest of your life? You need to have variety too! along with stability of a relationship as well. It has been done and can be done. it all depends on the person your with.

 

[heppeee]

I can deny any connection I choose. I have always believed you don't have "one" soulmate or anything of the sort. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Perhaps there are thousands of ladies who would be right for me. Who knows. I do agree that her job as an MPA should not be a deal breaker. Maybe if she's a serial killer as well I'll have to re-think things.

 

[Emerald]

They all have this wild side to them to even be in this buiss. in the first place so, there has to be more than that than what you said above. Cause not ever girl or any girl can do this job. It has to be in you a bit a least to do it, and in turn there has to be a wild kinky side to the girl as well. I know many reg. girls and they would never do this job for no amount of money. I have talked to many g-friends of mine and it's a big "NO WAY". So my point is to even cross over to MPA land there has to be something going on in there heads other than the $$$. Know what I mean. With all the requests they get from there clients to do this and that and act like this. Come on!!! You have to be a wild child to do this with all kinds of diff. men. on a daily. My 2 cents.

 

[Pompal 09.]

Why assume that they don't Ezra? Most MPA's & SP's for that matter are open to it. However, to get to that point, they need to see enough of you to get a sense for who you are and how you are different from all the other dirtbags (clients) that they jerk off/suck/fuck each and every day.

 

[Pompal 09.]

...she has lots of friends from high school who are skanks...and she enjoys their company.

 

[weddingdressesunnf]

Not putting anyone down here...We as clients or them as MPA. We are all human, it just certain types of people are open to things like, us clients going and them doing there job. Nothing more, what i am trying to explain is the openess and willing of the people to be open about sexuality and not be sooo taboo. Know what I mean?

 

[mommy dreamer]

1) The guys I was speaking of weren't thinking about "pussy"...they were thinking about a good time. And they don't think lap dances are lame, because that is what they want....they don't want what is for sale at a SPA.

2) The guys I was speaking of are the most profitable for the SC...not the girls necessarily, but the SC. Groups of guys who are going to run up a nice sized drink tab and have a good time. perhaps even expense said drink tab...in which case who cares how much the beer is.

By allowing the guys who YOU are speaking of to become their main clientele...SC lost them as soon as a "better" and "cheaper" thrill came along. Like you said...you wants a lame lap dance if what you really want is to be jerk, sucked, and fucked?

Had SC focused on serving the guys who were there for the lap dances and the cold brew...they would still be coming.

 

[starlet51490]

The honesty is quite refreshing. Eventhough you say that there is an internal defense mechanism which allows you to separate your work responsibilities from your personal relationships, it's interesting that you would you would not want a man who was was comfortable with that. The fact that you're willing to do a job but wouldn't want a partner who is comfortable with your job is obviously hypocritical, but at least you recognize the hypocrisy.

 

[xoxoDLxoxo]

LOOOL I actually dont agree entirely with Miss Lynn this time. I feel similar, but not the same. I did have a relationship for the first half of my career. And although the relationship wasnt right, my job was never a factor. I think its my choice to do whatever it is that I choose to do, and if he has a problem, there is the door!! I almost dated a client once also. My job wanst the reason we didnt end up together; it was his wife that kinda interrupted our flow. HAHAHA! (j/k)

I tend to over power men in relationships, and I find it hard to meet an equal. If Mr Right strolls into my room and lands on my table, so be it.

 

[naguero]

When I said something like that in the SC forum and since I am a guy, I got a lecture on being "close minded".

 

[ScreamEmoGirl!]

How do I know if I'm a dirtbag or a client?

 

[C G]

Hypocrisy is everywhere. I'd rather deal with someone who can be honest and admit things rather than try to play it off.

Lynn...we've not always agreed on things but I do respect you

 

[globeweasel]

Why limit yourself to one or the other?

 

[school]

I'm liberal, I'm a feminist... but regardless of how open-minded I am, I know that a man not being bothered by me being intimate with other men would bother the hell out of me.

I know how things are compartmentalized in my head between "work" and "real life" but he doesn't...

It's funny~ I want to be honest. I want to be respected in my decision to work. I don't want it to tear my SO apart... yet I don't want him to be okay with it; infact I'd probably ditch him if he was....

Damn - who says women aren't complicated? lol

Here is the reason why most MPAs who are attatched are hiding their profession.....

 

[helterskeltergoneawry]

I dated an MPA for a while but she had skewed ideas about sex. Before we had sex she always made me lie naked on her coffee table while she asked "oil or powder" and "soft or hard."

 

[Pants On The Ground]

MPAsquared i love you your great!!!!! great insight....

 

[Pompal 09.]

I have to agree gentlemen, Lynn is onto something. Over time I have changed my mind and my approach based on what's occuring in my personal life. At times when I've had a bf, its a bit more disconnected. At times when Im technically available, I find it easier to emotionally dive in. There is a HUGE hypocrisy on all sides of the table. Just like a guy that comes in with a tan-line of his wedding ring and claims to be happily married...we an claim to be not all about the money, yet emotionally guarded. I've always been a woman of ironic hypocrisy, and its the irony of it all that makes it funny.

As we MPA's perfect our craft and decide our limits and boundries, we also draw our personal lines in the sand...that goes for emotion as much as mileage. We have to decide for ourselves where those lines are and allow them to adjust with life.

Personally, I am able to involve myself on an emotional level that alot of girls cant do. Its a luxury that I have now, but may not be that way always. I am so fond of so many of my regulars. And each 'relationship' is different. I love that about my job! The variety is as fun for me as it is for you boys.

Lynn, lets have drinks soon...I think we could chitchat for hours~!

 

[Kratnoff]

Quite a few of the MPA's I know, go on paid dates with clients but only after they know the guy aint a creep and its to a public venue.

You just need to know how to ask and when to ask.

 

[Blazin_luvv]

Thank you much. Since I was labeled close minded loser on massageplanet.net, I took it to heart and was considering giving up my relatively successful career and becoming a freewheelin hippy -- so that i could be more "open minded" and less of a "loser".

 

[Jake R]

I'll come along just to cause a little bit of ruckus