Today, most places that offer massages will offer HJ as well! I have come across few places that do not offer HJs . It is important to ask for it respectfully and diplomaticly. One way is to say: I often go to places that offer complete (or European) massages, I prefer them because it is more relaxing. At this point the masseuse will either make this availble to you of decline your request.
These ladies have been asked for HJs at least a thousand times, they know what to expect when they started to do this job.
I can tell you that even in Hotel massages all you have to do is tell them you have traveled widely and ask if "complete massages" were customary in this city, because it seem to be the case in Europe, (especialy eastern europe) the orient, and south america. Truthfully, I have not traveled to all those places, but this is the line I use. I can tell you that I have gotten complete massages in Hotel in Montreal, Toronto, NYC, San Francisco, Chicago, and Washington DC. It helps if you do not use phrases like "Whack my Willy", just ask if a complete or european massage is possible! It helps if you ask at the begining of the massage, if the girl is so inclined she will massage diplomaticly at the completion of the massage. Complete massages at Hotels are mostly done by outside persons that work at the hotel when guest request massages the are not authorized to do HJs, but I have gotten quit a few. As far as spas, I have heard about one spa in Toronto where the masseuse did do completes, and I have spoken to one masseuse that told me that she offered completes in a spa in Montreal.
FYI: the phrase "complete" or "european" massage is used widely in Montreal. In the States the phrase "massage to completion" is prefered.