Oils for a hyperactive child

[Kris, Cari and Elmo]

Hello,
I have a 3 year old son and he gets so excited and hyped up he starts getting naughty.
He thunders around screaming and shouting for no reason and has also become a bit violent towards me and his little brother.

We are having his hearing chacked in case that is a factor. but i'd still like to calm him. Lavender does nothing for him!

Can anyone suggest and oil i could use to maybe calm him, maybe you sell creams or oils for kids. I'd be very interested coz i cant take it anymore.

 

[Phil H]

Have you tried roman chamomile?

 

[girl who is black]

You beat me to it, fleur. Don't forget to blend at half strength though.

 

[roger_in_oly]

Hi there,

I would add it may be valuable to look at your son's diet too. What you describe sounds very similar to how my children would react at times to highly processed foods. They could turn in minutes from being placid to being hyperactive and aggressive which would last for an hour or two.

RxXx

 

[Terdgeonline]

agree with the diet review

Does your child go off to sleep ok? A tip given to me by my tutor is a drop of spikenard and a drop of lavender in a burner at bed time taking usual precautions of course
I usually have the burner on in the room for appx 1 hour before bedtime with the room closed up - ie door and windows then blow the burner out as the child goes to bed.

 

[foebpasse]

Hiya
I agree with the stuff about diet - sounds like your littleun is reacting to food colours.

Taking a principle from homeopathy, in which like cures like, I wonder if Mandarin essential oil would help? One drop on the pillow at night - worth a try?

 

[Jay B]

roman chamomile

 

[SweetTea]

I remember my mum telling me how she had my hearing checked when I was about 3. The doctor said that I didn't have a hearing problem. I was just ignoring her Your son sounds very like mine was at that age, although mine actually has severe emotional, behavioural difficulties (EBD). Always remember, children are not naughty. They do things which are inappropriate but they are not naughty. I constantly have to say to my son, "I love you, but I don't like some of the things you do". There is a big difference.

The point is there is always a reason for what they do. Certainly it can be about pushing boundaries; finding their feet in the world and trying to assert some kind of authority. It's also why little kids love the bad guys in movies and cartoons. It's about power, which is something they don't have. At about this age they also go through the "you can't make me, I'm in control and I decide what I do" phase. Sadly my son's never grown out of this, but emotional development delay is part of his EBD issues

Anyway, sorry for the lecture. As others have said, it could be a reaction to something he's injested. For instance, my son is severely sensitive to all chemicals in food but also to straightforward sugar. But his biggest food sensitivity is a very common one. It's not azo dyes or aspartame or msg (although a a small amount of something like sugar free Fruit Shoot will make him climb the walls for half a day). It's soya. Sensitivity to soya causes hyperactivity, agressive behaviour and so on. And soya is in one heck of a lot of stuff, and things you wouldn't think of. Because it's cheap, it's used as a vegetable oil everywhere, even in organic foods. It's in sweets, in milk chocolate (soya lecithin), in foods. And the labelling laws only say that the manufacturers have to put "vegetable oil" on the label, not the source of the oil.

So I'd suggest looking at his diet very carefully. Cut out everything you don't cook yourself from scratch and don't give him anything that just says
vegetable oil on the label. It's a faff when you're shopping, but it might just pay off. Then again, the terrible twos last longer than two, and then you're into the "teenage threes". Like the terrible twos but with an opinion on everything

Good luck

 

[Kassimella]

Sorry, just to add something. Effective discipline is vital for your sanity. There's a great book by a guy called Thomas Phelan called 1-2-3 magic. See if you can pick it up, because it's fantastic. And if they're old enough to count to 3, they're old enough to understand the system.

 

[Enronnexexpep]

roman chamomile and lavender . Burn lavender in rooms and scent bed clothes with roman chamomile