would you say going to an erotic massage cheating on your significant other?

[Marian]

I was curious what people thought about this question.
Would you tell your g/f or wife you had a beautiful MP oil you up and give you HJ?

I have been to a massage parlour twice and I had a fabulous time.
I am in no means of telling my girl. She would be pissed and be pissed to pay someone a Hj when I could get it for free.=S

 

[spicerjoe]

Are you really that naive?

 

[Krystyn H]

For sure tell her but make sure you record her reaction and post it on youtube or better yet post is somehow on here.
That would be fantastic!

 

[Mejoliza]

If you're hiding something from your S.O., you're cheating.

 

[sarci]

I always find it surprising when someone asks that question on this board. Granted I'm only guessing, but more often than not it seems like it comes with the hope that we'll all say "no, it's not cheating" as a way to absolve guilt.

The real point is: why don't you ask the person that you think you may be cheating on? If it's because you know they would be deeply hurt and angry, then yes, you're cheating. Cheating doesn't follow some absolute and abstract rules. It happens when you're doing something behind your SO's back, something they have a reason to believe is out of bounds in your relationship.

 

[John Murdock]

Yes, it is (lucky for me, I'm single )

 

[Marian]

Shhhhhhh (if it's true)

 

[Martin F]

To me its not cheating. I don't tell my SO when I take a dump either.

 

[crazyb117]

to the OP, here's a suggestion. next time you go with your SO to the mall or wherever, find a hot looking chick that you can picture as a possilble MPA, then tell your SO this...."hey that girl looks hot, i wonder if she's as hot naked, i wonder what it feels like to get oiled up by her and rub our bodies together...must be an amazing experience...don't you think honey?" don't forget to let us know how this ends up.

 

[MeltandFlow]

I have talked to several MPA's over the years, and I have never had one say it would be OK for her SO to go to a MP. Always thought that was telling.

 

[lakersfan]

The way I look at is it's a private thing I do that does not affect my wife. I enjoy ladies and I enjoy my wife, I don't over do it with the massages and still bang the wife. She's happy I'm happy it's all good.

 

[Merry Christmas! :)]

Not only is it not ok, they would / did freak out. They talk about understanding our need for variety, but deep down, know that hobbying comes from a failed relationship (even if the failure is because her man is an a$$hole).




They aren't cheating cuz they're just doing their job. it's totally different!


Btw, I'm a professional John. I specialize in quality assurance and internal control compliance.

Free pass, baby!

 

[Dannnnce]

No actually the bartender got paid, she fucked you for free. So that's cheating.

 

[Anastasia Marie]

Eating ain't cheating

 

[Morgan Babes :P]

If you have to ask.. well then you know the answer already..

 

[emperoryt]

It's still cheating, but you try to rationalize it anyway you can. Ask your wife, if it's okay to for a rub and tug until the purple head spits. Then report back from whatever hotel you're at!

 

[Lady in Waiting]

This pretty well sums it up for me. She defines if you're cheating, not you.

 

[Pompal 09.]

You're delusional, youre hurting your girlfriend and when she finds out; she's gonna hate men because you're a cheater

 

[Curt J]

What if you gave her money and she used that money to buy a drink and then fucked you? Or maybe she fucked you because you bought her a drink (and probably dinner and other nice things) so it wasn't FREE.

Anyway, who cares? If you're SO finds out about it, nothing is going to change her mind that you cheated so what's the point of making up all these weird rules? Nobody on this board cares. If you're going to cheat, just cheat but don't try to justify it. And OP, I think you're right -- just like if you're SO was a MP then there would be no relationship, if she found out that you went to see a MP then there would be no relationship.

 

[Bubbly Brit!]

Told my SO that if she can't do what I'm looking for as a GGG, which I am always willing to do for her then I've got the ability to get those needs met elsewhere. It took a while to get her to agree. We don't talk about it and I sure as shit don't come home and rub her face in it. It's a reality of the relationship and that's all.