Chat At crossroads with hobbying...what should I do?

[OG_funguy]

I used to hobby quite a bit in my younger days. Then after a long hiatus, I ventured back in probably around 3 years ago. As many on here know, I mainly stick with semi-legits as I do appreciate a nice massage and the more casual (i.e. less transactional) atmosphere.

However, lately I'm not enjoying my sessions as much. Mileage is at all time highs so that's not the issue but something is definitely lacking...maybe it's because although I'm getting high mileage at semi-legits, the ladies just aren't that experienced (or good) at these higher level services and I can no longer rely on that 'surprise' experience anymore to get me excited.

The way I see it, I have a couple of options...start venturing into the holistic / SP world with younger, hotter chicks that know what they're doing or just stick with a good massage and basic hj at semi-legits and forgo the higher level stuff. By not being concerned with the mileage I get, it would also allow me to explore and visit more new places (since I would only be expecting a hj anyways). Of course, I could mix it up and do a bit of both too...

Has anyone else found themselves in a rut before and what did you do about it? I'm very interested in hearing other's experiences with this...

 

[luvnewpussy]

You get tired of the same experience.
Doesnt matter if its semi..sp..mpa.
Just change up a bit. If your going into the same environment there is no newness.

Variety is the spice of life

 

[krayjee]

Go find a drama queen, you will never get bored.

 

[hangul99]

I left the holistic scene and went to the semi-legit scene. I then got bored of that and went to the legit scene. I found a few gems in the legit scene who after awhile provided some relief. Now I mainly go the legit route for the massage and whatever happens after happens. Its not the focus of my appointment.

I do however still have a few regulars who work out of there home for a select few clients that they trust.

Once in awhile I'll venture to a semi legit place as a walk in when i cant get an appointment with a legit or regular.

I've come to the conclusion that I'm just bored with knowing how everything will play out. I've probably been in this game too long and I'm ready to head off into the sunset.

 

[Hangdai]

Go find a drama queen, you will never get bored.

Holy crap, too funny,

I thought you like KL?

As long as he's prepared to lose some hairs, lol

 

[OG_funguy]

I left the holistic scene and went to the semi-legit scene. I then got bored of that and went to the legit scene. I found a few gems in the legit scene who after awhile provided some relief. Now I mainly go the legit route for the massage and whatever happens after happens. Its not the focus of my appointment.

I do however still have a few regulars who work out of there home for a select few clients that they trust.

Once in awhile I'll venture to a semi legit place as a walk in when i cant get an appointment with a legit or regular.

I've come to the conclusion that I'm just bored with knowing how everything will play out. I've probably been in this game too long and I'm ready to head off into the sunset.

You got tired of the holistic scene? So even hot sex with gorgeous women doesn't last long? I like your comment about just letting whatever happen, happen and not let it be a focus of the session.

Yeah, your statement that I highlighted is exactly where I'm at. Everything is down to the T now...I know precisely when their clothes are coming off, which minute I will bust and what candies to select on my way out.

 

[xtc27]

You got tired of the holistic scene? So even hot sex with gorgeous women doesn't last long? I like your comment about just letting whatever happen, happen and not let it be a focus of the session.

Yeah, your statement that I highlighted is exactly where I'm at. Everything is down to the T now...I know precisely when their clothes are coming off, which minute I will bust and what candies to select on my way out.

...my tried & true strategy... try & stay away.

Kinda harder 4 u, since they text u w/o u starting it...

... staying away usually ends w/ getting really excited about going again...

...2 bad 4 me very hard 2 quit... I give off hobbyist pheromones that MPAs can detect...

...still can’t believe Crystal @ Imperial Health called out to me from over 20 ft away... on my bike , in ski goggles & mask, -10 degrees...


...lots of angles of this sport 2 explore b4 I commit hobbycide...

...my guess is yr not doing enuf outside yr comfort zone...

 

[Hangdai]

Of course, I could mix it up and do a bit of both too...

I think you’ve answered your own question.

I’ve always mixed it up , from legit, semi-legit, Holistic, SP’s , and lately, been really enjoying the social media hookup angle with meeting civilian Asian Milfs.

Obviously, sex with other women WILL continue to happen in your life, it’s just a matter of how you’ll get from point A to point P.

I agree that the journey is sometimes more exciting than the destination.

 

[Hangdai]

...my guess is yr not doing enuf outside yr comfort zone...

Exactly! i think this point alone is worth exploring.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

I used to hobby quite a bit in my younger days. Then after a long hiatus, I ventured back in probably around 3 years ago. As many on here know, I mainly stick with semi-legits as I do appreciate a nice massage and the more casual (i.e. less transactional) atmosphere.

However, lately I'm not enjoying my sessions as much. Mileage is at all time highs so that's not the issue but something is definitely lacking...maybe it's because although I'm getting high mileage at semi-legits, the ladies just aren't that experienced (or good) at these higher level services and I can no longer rely on that 'surprise' experience anymore to get me excited.

The way I see it, I have a couple of options...start venturing into the holistic / SP world with younger, hotter chicks that know what they're doing or just stick with a good massage and basic hj at semi-legits and forgo the higher level stuff. By not being concerned with the mileage I get, it would also allow me to explore and visit more new places (since I would only be expecting a hj anyways). Of course, I could mix it up and do a bit of both too...

Has anyone else found themselves in a rut before and what did you about it? I'm very interested in hearing other's experiences with this...

I see two possibilities: the novelty has worn off, so it is time to take a break or find a new obsession; other emotional needs are not being met, so it may be time for a real girlfriend.

 

[xtc27]

I see two possibilities: the novelty has worn off, so it is time to take a break or find a new obsession; other emotional needs are not being met, so it may be time for a real girlfriend.

....(shhhh.... pssst.... usefulidiot...u, me& the real cole... only single guys here... these bro’s got gf, so, friggn wives & stuff... I know, freaky eh... KL stringing along a few per his other posts... shhhh... so gf advice... well... ya know...).

 

[therealcole]

I used to hobby quite a bit in my younger days. Then after a long hiatus, I ventured back in probably around 3 years ago. As many on here know, I mainly stick with semi-legits as I do appreciate a nice massage and the more casual (i.e. less transactional) atmosphere.

However, lately I'm not enjoying my sessions as much. Mileage is at all time highs so that's not the issue but something is definitely lacking...maybe it's because although I'm getting high mileage at semi-legits, the ladies just aren't that experienced (or good) at these higher level services and I can no longer rely on that 'surprise' experience anymore to get me excited.

The way I see it, I have a couple of options...start venturing into the holistic / SP world with younger, hotter chicks that know what they're doing or just stick with a good massage and basic hj at semi-legits and forgo the higher level stuff. By not being concerned with the mileage I get, it would also allow me to explore and visit more new places (since I would only be expecting a hj anyways). Of course, I could mix it up and do a bit of both too...

Has anyone else found themselves in a rut before and what did you about it? I'm very interested in hearing other's experiences with this...

Take a break for few months.

 

[OG_funguy]

I see two possibilities: the novelty has worn off, so it is time to take a break or find a new obsession; other emotional needs are not being met, so it may be time for a real girlfriend.

If there's one thing that my recent MPA interactions have confirmed, it's that emotionally I'm fine and like most guys, get jittery as women become attached. So...definitely don't need a GF (but FWB would be nice).

It's the former...question is what should I do to enjoy hobbying again...sigh.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

Okay, maybe no girlfriend, but perhaps take a break and spend your free time on something new and different - martial arts, learn electronics, join a cause that inspires you, catch up on Game of Thrones, try DMT, buy a motorcycle, ...

 

[vanelric]

Start going the licensed places. Seduction, Flirt, Premier, see if your charms work on those gals.

 

[OG_funguy]

Okay, maybe no girlfriend, but perhaps take a break and spend your free time on something new and different - martial arts, learn electronics, join a cause that inspires you, catch up on Game of Thrones, try DMT, buy a motorcycle, ...

Can you think of anything new that involves pussy

Just kidding, you raise a good point...

 

[OG_funguy]

Start going the licensed places. Seduction, Flirt, Premier, see if your charms work on those gals.

Haha, pretty sure whatever charm I 'might' have will not make up for my physical deficiencies when it comes to the premier girls...definitely out of my league. But I guess that's a good thing...and I do want to try one day.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

Can you think of anything new that involves pussy

Just kidding, you raise a good point...

Last summer I gave up porn for a month, and when I went back to it I avoided hardcore sites like PornHub and just went to a cam site: Chaturbate. The result was that average looking women became attractive to me again, and vanilla sex was fun again. Sometimes a break is healthy.

 

[pman]

I guess I won't add much since most of comments above suggesting the same: keep few options at every tier: legit, semi, holistic, sp ...
I was hobbling for many years through solely semi legit places hunting that amazing experiences when " happens whatever happens " and you never can predict. High mileage at low mileage places - that's probably what pampered my ego, desire to feel special. I found out that persistance +$ almost always make me special most of those small spas with hidden gems are not even discussed on this board..
Then, I joined this forum and have broadened the horizons . Finding places like SL (thanks, KJ) had elevated my game experience from "tetris" to RPG shooter.
Renee will stay forever in my hall of fame.
Finally one day couple of years ago my friend exposed me to premier chain and now I feel in love with one of my favs...
Concluding, live is beautiful as long as we feel that gravity force to these places and can appreciate all those ladies and their efforts to make this live better.

 

[OG_funguy]

I guess I won't add much since most of comments above suggesting the same: keep few options at every tier: legit, semi, holistic, sp ...
I was hobbling for many years through solely semi legit places hunting that amazing experiences when " happens whatever happens " and you never can predict. High mileage at low mileage places - that's probably what pampered my ego, desire to feel special. I found out that persistance +$ almost always make me special most of those small spas with hidden gems are not even discussed on this board..
Then, I joined this forum and have broadened the horizons . Finding places like SL (thanks, KJ) had elevated my game experience from "tetris" to RPG shooter.
Renee will stay forever in my hall of fame.
Finally one day couple of years ago my friend exposed me to premier chain and now I feel in love with one of my favs...
Concluding, live is beautiful as long as we feel that gravity force to these places and can appreciate all those ladies and their efforts to make this live better.

Ok, good to know that a fellow semi guy tried a premier place and really enjoyed it