My friend introduced me to a girl he dated and i like her.?

[wish i was rich]

lets start by saying that im 21 yrs old. One of my best friends and my coworker introduced me to one of his female friends. He said we would like each other, and i told him cool who wouldnt want to meet a beautiful woman. So i met her and we began to text alot, we went out alot and since she goes to school downtown near my job we meet up when im on break and lunch a few days a week. Everytging was going great and i began to like her more than i thought i would. So the more we talk i began to have questions about how they met bc she is very attractive. Me being a man i knew that he met her not to become friends but to form some sort of relationship since he met her 2yrs ago. He is married now and has been for 2 yrs. But i l was having suspitions about how close they were before he was married. So it was eating at me for days so i just came out and asked him about the past they.had. The answer i got wasnt the one i hoped for. I asked did they have sex he said no then i asked did they kiss and he said yeah. The issue comes in bc i asked her did they mess around and she said no "she never liked him like that". So fast forward to the conversation me and my friend had my heart dropped. evert since i have been having uncontrollable thoughts of those two together. She is in no way a slut shes a good girl but this still bothers me. She has her head on straight. She graduating college soon also. my friend is loyal and like a big bro to me. Another issue is that they kissed and we havent bc ive been trying to move at her speed with everything. Im pretty jealous and i dont want to end things with her nor mess up a friendship. What should i do? (she hasnt told me they kissed)

 

[Frank]

My answer may be a little rough, but it is true. You should get over your insecurity. If you can only cope with women who have never dated anyone else because it makes you insecure, then you are going to be very lonely. Don't fool yourself and think that there is someone out there who is the perfect virgin who will make you happy, because then you'll just get insecure every time you hear about one of her male coworkers talking to her, and the insecurity is the root of jealousy.

Stop thinking of women as "sluts" and "good girls" as you put it. Sigmund Freud would tell your mother loved you (or you wanted her to love you) more than all the other boys because you were her son. If you are going to expect your girlfriends to be virgin mothers, you're going to be alone or you are going to be miserable.

This woman chose you. She did not choose you because she has no other options. She did not choose you because you are the only man she has ever seen. She chose you because she likes you. Now get over yourself before she gets over you.

If you ask her if you are a better kisser than your friend, she will dump you on the spot.

 

[iizdjsour]

I think your overreacting , she probably didnt tell you because she was worried about your reaction or didnt deem it important , your friend is married and has been for 2 years , I wouldnt be jealous. I would just keep seeing the girl and see how it goes .