why?? help, im 16 and im a NEWBIE at all thisss?

[Tee<3]

kay so me and my bf are in love, we don't have sex, but we are physical and for the first time I gave him a hand job but nothing happened, could it be because he was drunk? or i was kinda doing it off and on could that be it? ehhhh i don't know

 

[Ben L]

Yes, both him being drunk and it being the first time are likely responsible for this.

In fact, when newbies engage in sexual activities for the first time, they are often very nervous. When you are nervous, it often inhibits you from achieving orgasm or even any arousal at all.

Alcohol can have the exact same effect.

As you practice this more, it will become more fluent and you will notice results.

 

[Glow]

Don't worry about it. Yes it is more difficult for guys to ejaculate if they are drunk. Plus maybe he was also nervous about it. And it's not so easy for girls to do just the right thing to make it happen, it takes some time and practice to know how to please your partner. Just relax. He might also be self-conscious that it didn't happen. You are young and in love. Just enjoy that and don't rush into sexual stuff or try too hard to get to some ridiculous goal of orgasm. That is really not important. Just get to know each other on all levels and take it slow. Seriously, take it slow. It is better to wait than to feel like you weren't ready for that after it's done.

 

[Hadji]

Well, he must have erectile dysfunction. Don't worry, people who ingest high amounts of curry usually never have this problem. You can practice on me if you'd like.

 

[Amy]

-being drunk could have a lot to do with it

-if its the first time u did it he may have been to nervous to let hiself "finish"

-if he is 16 and hes not pressuring u to have sex then he is probably masturbating before he hooks up with you so that he wont have such a stronger urge to have sex. and maybe he did this so he couldn't "finish" again.

 

[kicksd]

i think...hes GAY