do you consider cheating

[Boli Loquita]

If we look at it clinically I'd say no. I've had standard RMT meassages and they brought me great pleasure and relief just not in a sexual way. So where do we draw the line and say "If you feel X amount of pleasure it's cheating"? Your dick is muscle just like your claves, or whatever. Sexual tension is not healthy.

The question is why would you go to a rub n tug and pay for something your girlfriend or wife could do for free? So if you are replacing your mate with someone else then yes that's cheating.


Or somethin like that.

 

[Billy]

It's cheating on the physical level but not on the emotional side. Regardless, i do consider this hobby the main reason,why my marriage is still intact.

 

[ZIGGIE]

Dude, it's usually because they're not doing it. For free or otherwise.

 

[justagirl]

Yes, of course it's cheating.

 

[Kim P]

No because I bring my partner along and we both enjoy the service!

 

[ichliebedich]

I'd say any intimacy is being unfaithful, that's why we hide it. However, I understand why people need this outlet in their lives.

 

[EmzyDoodle(:]

nice gunt, can i watch?

 

[herblaura]

1) Because a lot of the girlfriends and wives are physically disgusting.

2) They're only with their girlfriend or wife because they're used to being with them,and feel they wouldn't be able to handle being alone again.

3) They don't care enough about their wives or girlfriends, so they cheat on them.

 

[Ggg]

tell them whatever they wanna hear - just close the deal ?

something like that, yeah ... don't dip into yer own grass ... I always forget, but I know what ya mean ... however, it's far easier said than done : )

Quite possibly. I dunno - I just say stuff. Initially, I just meant to make the point that we shouldn't always define our actions in absolute terms by what others think [SO or not]. Consideration for another's feelings is different. Two seemingly conflicting feelings can coexist within us and both be true, no ? I suppose I'm trying to look at it from the a third party reality. From that perspective "what ya don't know won't hurt ya" is undoubtedly true in the present, not taking into consideration any fallout. I still believe that, long term, absence of deception is the most positive route in almost all cases for both parties - it's just that even if we are true to ourselves and then convey that to others we're likely going to run into conflict. But then, conflict can coexist in harmony ...

PS I agree abt Brokeback Mountain ...

 

[Lie Ryan]

So we should say that withholding sexual intimicy from your mate is cheating. Cheating your mate.

 

[SiderealDrift]

Cheating only happens with poker and taxes. Seeing an MPA or SP is like seeing a shrink. It's THERAPY!

 

[lynnet bielech michaels]

If its something you'd never tell your partner you are doing , then there's a good chance its cheating.

 

[missdancerxx]

If your SO believes that, she deserves to get cheated on

 

[i_been_jammin]

My view is that any action, physical or vocal, is unwholesome if it disturbs or has the potential to disturb the peace and harmony of others OR if it encourages others to do the same. Similarly, any action, physical or vocal, if it encourages the peace and harmony of others And/or encourages others to do the same than that is a wholesome action and how to live a moral life. Thats morality to me.

Justify it if it makes you feel better, but inside you dont realize what are the effects of comitting any immoral/unwholesome action are having on you... at a very deep and subtle level.

I don't know if i would say going to a mp is cheating or not but i do know that it is not a wholesome action. If there was absolutely nothing wrong with visiting a mpa whether you are in a relationship or not than someone please tell me why people get punished. Not just with fines etc. but why is someone punished by feeling paranoia, suspiciousness, nervousness or guilt etc.?
Obviously you must have done something wrong to have to be paying such consequences?

 

[MyCheMicALmuse]

Depending on what you look like.If you're gross you could very well be doing her a favour by giving her more time to cheat on you with someone more disireable than yourself.

 

[dirtt_diver]

I can't believe there are six pages of debate on the subject. Of course it's cheating. If you don't think so, then either you simnply don't believe in the concept of cheating, or you are delusional. Come to think of it, those might be the same thing.

To the guys who think it is not cheating:

If your girlfirend / wife goes to get a massage from some drop-dead gorgeous guy, they both get naked, she jerks him off and he fingers her to orgasm, is she cheating? Puh-leeeeze!

Uly

 

[Suddenly Human]

Once in a while, you're really quite funny.

Makes it almost worth wading through the faux-homoeroticism.

Almost.

 

[NoNo]

That's because married men seldomly leave their wives for a piece of ass or otherwise for that matter. Men don't want the grief. We just want to have a little peace and quiet.

Women on the other hand cheat seldomly for sex, it's usually about seeking out another man who they feel loves them more than their current partner. They confuse sex with intimacy and once they start an affair start to figure out how they can get out of their relationship with YOU and take up with Karl.

Then, ironically after a couple of years with Karl, they figure out that he isn't all they thought he was cracked up to be and they want you back, but usually by that time, you don't give a fuck about them and are with someone else, and still going to the MP.

 

[JS14]

It's not cheating as long as you can look your SO in the eye and quote Bill Clinton, with a straight face..."I have not had sexual relations with that woman..."





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Alice Lee Longworth

 

[Elsabe]

When you have to rationalize something..... it's probably cheating.

When you have to hide it...... it's probably cheating.

When you'd get upset if you found your SO doing something similar..... it's probably cheating.

Guess it's a good thing I'm single.

For the record, I don't think the penis is a muscle, the tissue is not the same as muscles.

Also, sexual pleasure is different than other types of pleasure. No one would be upset if you took pleasure from watching a sunset but taking pleasure from a hand job..... that's different. Now if you watched that sunset from someone else that's another story.