do you consider cheating

[i like grapes.]

If your G/F went for a massage by lets say a guy, and he gave her a happy ending by rubbing her clit until she came, would you think she was cheating on you?

 

[Free Abuse]

If someone already posted this same thought, I apologize. I just couldn't be bothered to read all four pages:

To ask if it's cheating or not, I have a simple formula: In your head, reverse roles then ask yourself the question.

Imagine you were not the type to visit rub & tugs, but discovered your wife/girlfriend was visiting establishments in which really good-looking, nude guys were massaging your woman (also nude) and capping off the session by fingering her (or more) to completion, would you feel as though she were cheating?

Factor in as well that these guys are probably better-looking than you, in better physical shape, often with a tool bigger than your own.

Then factor in (especially if you're married) that she is spending upwards of $100 per session, money that you have been working hard for.

And of course factor in that you don't know exactly what happens in those places, so if caught, you would have to wonder if she's being honest about it just being hand-relief or if there's more to it. Trust Issue alert! Not to mention the prospect of her picking up some kind of STD that she's bringing home to you.

Now, ask yourself, is it cheating?

 

[D. (Da Dude) Danderfoose]

IMO, I would say no depends on your partner if they are open to a relationship with you going to MPA's. If your partner is not open to that then would stop going and focus on your partner.

 

[aysenur k]

I think frankcastle is getting closer to the truth. With me I was upfront with my SO about going to MP's and she was cool with that. Though I must say my SO was an exceptional woman and didn't represent the norm. So was it cheating ? Not as far as the two of us were concerned.

 

[JKimS]

This question reminds me of that classic Arnie flick - "The Running Man" (Arnie's movies have so much to teach us!).

Arnie was set up for a fall by some crooked cops/militia, convicted on trumped up evidence, and then forced to play a "game" to the death where the odds was stacked against him. He didn't make up the game, and had no input into the rules. However, he did clearly understand the rules.

He survived the game. I'd have to say he broke quite a few rules along the way in order to survive!

I'd say that men do not "agree" to the rules or expectations of their SO, or those of society in general, when they marry. They understand the expectations because public morality is well publicized. They seldom have any conversation with their SO about whether they expect these rules to be followed strictly, because they assume that women will expect them to do so. They hope they can live by them, because they understand that life will be a lot simpler if they can. Most, for one reason or another, find out that they can't live by these expectations. Thus: massageplanet.netites, massageplanet.net, the majority of mankind, and the everlasting sex industry.

Do we call Arnie a "cheater"? Do we think he was justified to cheat? Do we really worry about the definition of "cheating" once we decide on the "morality" of a situation?

The moral of this story, my friends, is that "cheating" only has relevance if you have any respect for the rules in the first place. As a result, the question should be: "Is it always wrong to go to a rub and tug if you are in a relationship at the time?"

As for my personal view, since I don't subscribe to the "temptation, evil, sin, and weakness" explanation for human conduct, I don't think it's wrong unless you perceive that harm will come to yourself or someone else (who doesn't deserve the harm) as a result of it.

 

[~Nikki~ choke it]

This question has been asked before, but yes, I use my own name. And no, I don't feel guilty, but then I have never been a Christian (or belonged to any other religion, for that matter). As to whether or not it's cheating, I don't ask myself complicated questions. I've never discussed the matter with my wife, but I'm sure she would find the whole scene quite boring!

 

[suszcza]

Cheating:

I don't think that I am cheating... I am single and can see as many woman as i want... The question is: Are they cheating? The girls SP/MPAs hide this work from their boyfriends/husband, do you consider it a cheating?

 

[haries]

Where is this topic coming from and where is it going? This is a forum of information exchange, not a place to rationalize your conscience, or lack therof. Go see a shrink and pay for their time. How does that make you feel?

 

[Hawk M]

Ah give the guy a break at least the thread is about MPs.

 

[Xcbvc]

LOL

Well put.

 

[Dink]

yes it's cheating

 

[wuffer]

I don't tell my wife or my girlfriend about my last bowel movement down to the last detail either. I also dont tell my wife how much I want to fuck her sister. There are certain things I don't talk about and my hobby is one of them. Its an individual thing, to me its not cheating and thats the way it is.

 

[shorty150217]

Simply put... if you partake in sexual activity with a SO (GF, wife, plastic doll, etc) and visit a MP... you are a cheater. Otherwise, you're OK... continue on.

 

[Office Monkey]

hahahahahaha

 

[Anna K.]

Now theres a different way of thinking about it

 

[enfriendemy]

The problem is that you guys all buy into the whole idea of "cheating". Be honest with your girl and see how much better your life gets. And yes, I'm serious. If your marriage falls apart, it was based on a lie anyway.

 

[flybishop]

That's 100% cheating...

 

[Destrucity]

Its only cheating if you get caught!

 

[tanaz]

Well, if you're happy that she is getting some, as you say, then I wouldn't consider that theoretical scenario "cheating" because you are therefore okay with it.

If you have an understanding/agreement with your spouse about that, then it's not cheating, it's your mutually-agreed upon lifestyle.

Now, of course the problem isn't whether or not you consider it cheating, it's whether or not your spouse does.

I'm not judging, just saying that's the way I look at whether or not it's cheating.